Tuesday, February 19, 2019

Resistance

RESISTANCE
How it applies or interferes.

What makes a good horse?
What makes a good rider?

In my opinion, being relaxed, loose, confident, and capable, while keeping a resistance free rhythm, is the key to doing anything physical, well.

If there is any worry, inhibition or anxiety in you, it shows up as resistance in your ability to move. This happens because these thoughts restrict natural flow in our bodies by causing tension in different areas. Most often it is in the shoulder and neck areas. But it can be in our arms, hands, hips, legs, feet, and our core. Each area represents different types or thoughts of worry, inhibition or anxiety. The place or spot that is tense is a direct representation of your own personal emotional state.

I always say, "The frame in the body, tells us the frame of mind." And this is a very true statement. Its how I help the horses that come to me for training. I ask them to do a simple tasks. As they move, I watch for where the resistance is in the body. If any is present, we work on it till it flows nicely without tension or resistance. The end goal is to have a completely confident, capable, relaxed and willing partner.

Now, the same is true for us. The horse needs us to be resistant free as well. We need to flow seamlessly together. If we cannot, it carries into them. Just as we need a capable, relaxed and willing partner, so does the horse. Its our ability to relax, give guidance with a knowledge based confidence clearly with a steady rhythm that helps remove any worry, inhibition or anxiety in their mind that is causing resistance in their body.  If we worry, they worry. If we're tense, they will be tense. If we resist them, they resist us.

For a long time now, I've been applying Tai Chi principals to my horsemanship. I started learning it as a child. When I got into horses in my late teens and early 20's, I habitually and unknowingly applied it to my riding and ground work. I made this connection about 10 years ago. Now I keep it right up front in my mind in all that I do in my Horsemanship. I am working on ways to share this with anyone who is interested. The challenge is finding people who understand the benefits. Most right it off as foolish or a hoax. So its my goal to find ways to bring a clear understanding to those willing to listen.

Wednesday, November 28, 2018

EMOTION

EMOTION

What is in an emotion?
Thought is in an emotion.
Energy is in an emotion.
But what is an emotion?

In my research over the past 35 years based on thought, energy, and emotion. Or my study of the mind and how it works. If I put it in my own words I would break it down to computer terms to help make sense of it all.

The way I see it. One byte of emotional content is equal to a gigabyte of thought. Probably way more. What I'm getting at is, emotion is a massive amount of thought and energy, all condensed down into one package which becomes highly visible to anyone who may be there to see it.

Emotion effects the mind in such a way that massive amounts of neurons fire all at one moment. It produces so much thought that it overloads the circuits. Which in turn shows up everywhere in the body in the form of tension and resistance. It may be a twitch, it could be a full blown body lockup, or anything in between.

If we can read the tension and resistance, then we can read their thoughts. Many people are very proficient at this.

The best way to do this is to not try and think all the thoughts, but to boil it all down to the emotion or emotions, present. The level of tension and resistance will tell how severe it is.

Why am I writing about this?
Because I use this information every day in my work with the horses and thought it may help some of you. By reading the thoughts and energy present, then boiling it down to and emotion, you can use your thought and apply energy to remove the tension and resistance. This in turn removes or calms the emotions. It also instantly organizes a million thoughts, little by little into something more understandable. Its the overload of thought which is not understood that causes the emotional outbreak. By removing the tension and resistance, you organize all those misunderstood thoughts to something they understand. Once they do, emotions no longer get in the way and you can have a more meaningful conversation.

I should add. And not to confuse you. There are many different emotions. Some are actually productive. Like pure emotional content which makes us completely present and aware of all that is around us. Absorbing and understanding things to its fullest potential. Which is what we should all strive for. Its the emotions that get in the way that I am talking about in the main portion of this writing. I could go on forever in this subject. But I think I should stop here.
I hope you found this informative.
Thank you for reading.

Wednesday, August 1, 2018

WHO AM I

WHO AM I?
Have you ever asked yourself this question?

If you do ask, the first 2 words in your answer are the most powerful. And that is, "I AM" !!! The words that come after become a manifestation of who we will become whether its true in the moment of the question or not. If we believe its true, it will become who we are. It can be positive, or extremely negative. Guard your thoughts.

Often times, who we think we are, is based on other peoples opinions of us. If we listen to or feel their opinion is important, we believe to some extent that their perception is a fact and not just an opinion. So more often who we think we are is really us thinking who we are is in the way that we think other people see us. This is unfortunate because our true self gets lost inside. Confused and trying to be something we are not because someone else thinks its good, or not being something we do want just because others think its bad.

In order to truly know who we are, we need to go deep inside ourselves and ask all the important questions. Like, "What makes me happy?" , "What type of things build interest?" , "Am I passionate about this?" And any other question that gets to the bottom of who we are, not through other peoples opinions.

Say what you think, tell people how you feel. Surpressing who we are or holding back feelings because we are afraid of what others may say or think just makes our life difficult because it takes away all our options and takes us further away from our own joy and happiness. Not that we need to be an ass about it. We just need to maintain some self respect without being disrespectful to others.

The real truth is. We are not who or what we think we are, nor are we who or what other people think we are. But we "BECOME" who "WE" think we are. And that doesn't matter if the thought originates from us or is implanted by others. We will become who we think we are.

Our true self gets lost inside. Our true self gets buried beneath all the extra weight of external opinion. We receive it as fact, but our true self knows better. So it keeps fighting for us from within. This creates so much conflict with our emotional state and is the primary reason a person becomes emotionally unstable. I learned this through my work with horses. You can't tell them they are something they are not without getting an emotional outburst of some kind. They need to voice their opinion and we need to hear it. This is the same for us. We need to be who we are or we won't find peace and happiness.

So if you have read this all the way through. I would encourage you to go deep within yourself, into your heart and find out what it truly beats for. Find those answers and think only those thoughts so you can be your TRUE SELF and live a joyful and meaningful life.
Thanks reading.

Sunday, July 29, 2018

PERFECTION

PERFECTION

This to me is one of, if not the most misunderstood terms in life. I've heard many times, Why can't things just be perfect. Or, in a perfect world, it would be---- (fill in the blank).

Perfect to most people is a personal, yet misconceived, idealization of what they think something should be. Others may agree to a certain extent. But no way will everyone ever agree on what perfect should be. And that is because, in the human mind, perfect is just a personal idealization of their own desire.

I believe perfection lives in the fact that nothing can be or exist if the circumstances or conditions are not perfect for it to happen. What I mean by that is, cause and effect, perpetual motion, and energy transfer, as well as other things, CREATE. So events and actions of past and present moments, create things in the future. Sometimes the connection is noticeable, sometimes not. You may even be able to connect something to an event from years past, maybe even millennia ago. But even if you don't, I can assure you, all things evolved into being from past events so long ago that we could never comprehend. If one thing was different, all things would be different. But we wouldn't know because we live in the aftermath of what did happen and what it created. And that creation can only be what it is. Therefore, perfect because it cannot be anything else.

Now. Each present moment is what it is. We can't change the now. But every living creature with the ability to think, can make decisions. These decisions will create something in the future. If we are selfish and not thinking of all things, we are creating our own perfect world. Which may not be perfect for others. Yet it will effect the future for everyone eventually. Even hundreds and thousands of years into the future.

For me, keeping the thought that my present moment has been created by so many things from so long ago. It allows me to be more accepting of my current situation. I see it as a perfect moment that was set into motion many moons ago. And even when something comes up to where I may want to blame someone for what happens. It allows me to stop and accept, or be more compassionate instead of blaming.

I always say, "in the moment, the why is the least important thing." But in that moment, we can make choices. These choices effect not only our future, but the future of all things. Creating the new. Which again, can only be what was allowed to be by previous moments in the past. Therefore "perfect" still. It may be different and always changing. But it's always perfect because it can't be anything else.

I think if people stop trying to create a perfect world, or perfect situation, and see that it is what it is and can only be what it is due to the moments that created it. Then maybe they might see that all things truly are, perfect in every way.

I don't know what the benefits or consequences would be to that. But I do know that having this outlook in my life provides me with more peace and less conflict. It allows me to be more accepting and less irritated, therefore less confrontational. I also feel like I see more choices and opportunities in what life throws at me. Which removes the restricted feelings of being trapped and allows me to freely Express myself.

For those of you who read this. You have a great soul and I thank you for connecting with me in this perfect moment. May you all find peace in these words.

Tuesday, November 28, 2017

RELATIONSHIP

RELATIONSHIP

All morning I've been thinking about relationship and the many aspects of it. Many of us see the importance for it in our lives. Whether that be with our family, friends, spouses, or work environment. In Horsemanship, relationship is also extremely important.

I'm going deeper into this. Such as our relationship of our thoughts to our emotions, how our breathing is also related to our thoughts and emotions. Our thoughts and emotions are directly related to our movement. In fact our ability to move is in direct relation to our emotional state. If fear has a strong hold on us, it will inhibit or restrict your ability to even think, nevermind move.

I can say a lot more in many comparisons. But this took me to think on my understanding of Mind, Body, Spirit relationship. In some peoples point of view, the soul and the spirit are separate aspects of ourselves just as our DNA that makes up our body is partially from our mothers and partially from our fathers. In many ways they are, and in others they are the same. I will keep it simple and speak of them as one in spirit.

All 3 aspects are individual aspects of us. The relationship between these aspects of ourselves is imperative to our existence and our ability to cope in life. Yet most of us spend very little time even thinking about, nevermind nurturing these relationships. In my opinion, this is where all our own individual problems stem from. If we have fear, inhibition or anxiety. It stems from us internally. By not understanding the relationships within our own self, we become confused, fearful, lost, misguided, unaware and separated from our true self and our life purpose.

I see Spirit as energy that allows for our consciousness. Our Spirit is who we are. It is our presence, vitality, virtue, will and intent. But if we don't nurture it's relationship with the other 2 aspects, it becomes week. Our Spirit becomes drained. Which weakens ours Mind and our Body. So lift your Spirits. Give it the attention it deserves.

Our Mind is our connection to Body and Spirit. Our Body and all our senses exchange information with the all knowing Spirit aspect of ourselves in order for us to navigate through life. If our mind ignores this connection and we don't maintain this relationship, we become selfish, greedy, discontent, and we unattach from Spirit and attach to physical objects. Such as electronic devices, or any gadget, clothing item, useable or unusable items. This is also why addiction is so wide spread. This happens because our relationship with our self is insufficient. Something is missing and we don't understand what it is so we attach ourselves to a temporary good feeling to make up for it. Recognize and overcome it.

Our Body is made up of all the elements and came out of the Earth it self. We are made up of all things and our relationship with all things need to be recognized and nurtured. Our Body is the conduit that connects Spirit and Earth, which creates life. Ignore this and you find illness, disease, weakness, and loss of purpose. Our Body needs air, water, food, and energy. Air, water and food come from the Earth and they give us some energy. But our best sources of energy come from the Sun and Spirit itself. It is something we can manifest within ourselves through mindful thought and relationship with our Spiritual aspect of ourselves. Thus Mind, Body and Spirit working together.

Many understand the importance and work on it many different ways. Some do it individually with meditation, diet, and exercise. Some practice Yoga, Reiki, Chigong, Tai Chi, etc, etc.  I prefer Tai Chi myself which fully encompasses all aspects for the relationships between Mind, Body, and Spirit. But the simplest way to start becoming aware of these relationships is to just breathe.  Focus on your breath and you can't help but see, feel and experience all 3 aspects of Mind, Body, and Spirit coming together all in one moment.

There is way more to it. But this is a great place to start. I would recommend you try it. I'm sure you won't regret it.
Thanks for reading.

Thursday, October 12, 2017

Some thoughts on thought itself

A FEW THOUGHTS ABOUT, THOUGHT ITSELF

Think about this. Or think about that. Think about whatever you want to think about. It doesn't matter the topic or the position you have on it. We all think and we all analyze or associate.

But for any topic that comes to mind, it will either be something we kinda know or something we are just learning things about. Because the things we are certain of or know and understand in great depth, needs little to no thought at all.

Let's look at learning a skill. Whichever you choose. When first we start there is a lot of thought. We think so much in order to put everything in place so we can learn and understand. The more we do this skill, the less we have to think about it. Soon we can do it without much thought at all.

We can compare this to a single word and it's definition. Or if you want to go deep. We can compare it to a computer program. The person who creates the program has a lot of work to do to create the program so it works as it should. A lot of thought and research goes into the process. Every program needs some tweaking in certain places that isn't found until you try to run the program. So again, a little more thought. Once the process is complete, you click and it goes. Automatically.

Our thoughts work in the same way. Specially if the thoughts involve moving. The more intricate or physically demanding the movment. The longer it takes to become a seamless, thoughtless, responsive action. All it really takes is a conscious effort which programs our unconscious mind. Then it becomes us and we become it without having to think about it.

To take this to our Horsemanship and to draw attention to how I'm always talking about "Thought and Energy". Our thoughts automatically create expression. This is most noticed on our faces but can be picked up in our body and the horses as well. These expressions are picked up and processed by our mind. At first our conscious mind does a lot of thinking in order to make sense of it all. The more we do it the easier it gets because we are programming our unconscious mind. The more we have programmed into our unconscious, the more proficient we become at understanding and responding to the energy. When our Horsemanship becomes proficient, we flow in a seamless connected communication with our horse. The activity becomes much like the computer program. It runs automatically with little extra thought and a whole lot less effort.

The trick to this is to not assume, make excuses or try to make something happen. It's a difficult place to get to sometimes. Specially if you are in a hurry, have other things on your mind, your end goal is to ridged, or you skip important steps to attain it.

The point I'm making is that we can program ourselves to be very efficient and skillfull or be who and what we want to be. By making a conscious decision and effort to understand the topic or process.

Our unconscious mind is "Our True Self" and we can take control of it. Or we can go through life unconsciously allowing our Subconscious to be manipulated by energies we are unaware of. Because every thought we have is caused by an energy that we received at some point in our life that either created the thought or a certain way of thinking.

Not only can this help us, but we can help our horse in the same way. I find the best way is to use my thoughts to project energy to the horse to encourage a conscious thought in them. Soon with time and understanding, I reprogram their unconscious mind to seek intention and understand my thoughts through my energy. Once we are both able to do that, our communication becomes instant and in great detail. Like anything else, it needs maintaining. Other energies and thoughts get in the way much like a virus can corrupt your computer software. And it happens unknowingly. So we need to run tests every now and then.

I hope you all enjoyed this. I wrote it based on meditation practice. In which we strive to remove the endless mind chatter. In meditation we quiet the mind. This is how I try to be in my Horsemanship whether on the ground or mounted.  Just in a moving meditation. Thoughtless yet thorough.
Thanks for reading.

Tuesday, March 21, 2017

LIGHT FEEL or TRUE SOFTNESS

LIGHT FEEL or TRUE SOFTNESS
THE DIFFERENCE and IMPORTANCE OF BOTH

I right about this today because I think it's important to know there is a difference. It is possible to have a light horse that isn't soft. It's also possible to have a soft horse that isn't light. It's important for them to be both light and soft. I'll explain.

Having a light feel to your horse is great and pretty much a must if you want a horse to give to pressure with a light response. Lightness comes from them understanding the cue fully, liking you well enough to do it for you, and knowing not to lean on pressure. Repetition, consistency, and not overusing your aids can help you attain this. It comes from our ability to ask lightly, feel every little response, know how to respond to this, and give back. Making it beneficial to respond is better than making it consequential to not respond. So knowing when they are ready for you to ask for more is an important factor. If they're not ready, they might resist. That can be counterproductive.

Softness comes through the heart and mind then to the body and feet. True softness is difficult to attain. It only comes when all inhibitions are washed away. For softness you need to have a real connection with your horse. One that goes beyond the Rein and leg cues. Your thoughts and emotions need to match almost completely. Knowing how to read and understand your horses every thought and emotion is the only way to find the path to attaining this. You can't guess and you can't assume. And worse of all, you can't make excuses. It has to be real and true.

You may experience a horse that is responding to the lightest touch and doing everything you ask spot on. But maybe you have some inhibition causing small tension spots that to most would go unnoticed.  That would be Lightness without softness.  Or maybe your horse is as relaxed and carefree as can be with no worries, anxiety, stiffness, or inhibitions what so ever. But then when you apply a cue the response needs a second request. That could be having softness without Lightness.

The reason it's important to have both in my opinion is. A lot of (but not all) light responding horses are responding out of emotional energy. The fear, anxiety, or inhibitions becomes the motivator to that light response. If this is the case, then you risk them trying to overachieve, or nervously making a dangerous move. So building softness into this horse will remove those risks.

Also. There are some horses that are so soft that they're not very responsive. They may bend or move without resistance, but not necessarily with effort.  Building Lightness into these horses will benefit that greatly.

To me it takes a balance of both to make for a well rounded and safe horse. One that responds well, maintains emotionally, communicates with us and knows that we understand them. We won't always be on the same page everyday, but it is worth attaining and maintaining.
Thanks for reading.

Tuesday, March 14, 2017

Hearing Nature's Voice


HEARING THE SILENT - SEEING THE INVISIBLE - FEELING THE UNTOUCHABLE

For the longest time I've been working to find a way to explain the most important aspects of communication.

When I communicate with a horse, a dog, or any animal that doesn't speak verbally, I rely on my ability to interpret the things that can't be said, can't be touched, and can't be seen. I talk about it in many ways but most people either don't understand or don't believe it is possible.

I recently read an article about talking to nature. I can appreciate the article to its fullest. For many who may read it, they would  think it was all hogwash.

Thinking just that, I started pondering on a way to explain how a person would go about "Hearing Nature's Voice"  By doing this I think we can make a connection to how it works with animals as well.

A person can receive tons of information if they know how to interpret it. Nature is a hobby for me. I am into wilderness survival, edible wild plant life, using what nature provides. I admit my skills are probably not as good what my Great Grandfather's generation would have had, and certainly not what the Native American people would've had prior to the European invasion. But when I look at a tree, it tells me a story. In a quick glance I can tell a great deal about its life and the life of everything around it. If I was standing on a mountain looking down on a valley and viewing other mountains, I could tell by the growth on each mountain where I might need to go to find certain things. The trees and the lay of the land tells me what will be growing under those trees, where a stream should be so I could find water. This can be done by anyone with prior knowledge and understanding of nature's harmony and the purpose for its existence. Again, I know my skills could use some great improvements. But this basic thing I understand.

This is just another way for me to explain how I communicate with the animals as well. You have to listen without hearing, feel without touch, speak without saying a word. Interpretation of thought through thought. Energy received and returned in an endless cycle of harmony. Again I am still evolving into this capability and have much to learn. It doesn't always work. Misinterpretation, distractions, hurrying, and not thinking ahead can all make a mess of things. But when it is working, it's something so special.

I realize most people could care less about this. They just want to ride and the subtleties aren't important. That's OK. It's their choice. I know this and it's the main reason I don't push it or do any hard core advertising.

Also, this is at the end for a reason. It's the ones who are looking for this type of thing that I am most interested in working with. Sure I can give riding lessons, train their horse, or help them with their problems. And I am happy to do so. I would never turn anyone away. It's an opportunity for me to plant a seed of thought in their mind. Maybe it will grow interest. If not, I am still happy to have helped them with whatever it is they come to me for. I can't say enough how happy I am to help whoever is in need of some help.

My outlook on life is to always try to make the world a better place. I will do my best till my end days.
Thanks for reading.

Saturday, March 4, 2017

YOU RESTRICT = THEY RESIST

The simple laws of physics state that for every force or action, there is an equal and opposite force or reaction. This is a universal law that applies to everything.

In Horsemanship, or when it applies to people or animals that think, it can become amplified and accelerated into perpetual motion. This happens because one applies a force, the other applies a force to bring balance. In the case of thought, whether it be ego, inconcideration, or any form of inhibition,  an extra force comes to gain an upper hand. This in turn begets a force to establish balance again. The cycle can intensify in this way. This is how we get the "HARD MOUTHED HORSE"  Many other problems like stiffness, bracing, refusing, escaping, and many more come from this same basic natural law.

If thought is the energy or the force that is in play, and they are respectful and meaningful, then the responding force will be one that maintains balance and harmony. This will keep all actions and reactions civil. It maintains a balanced mind in the Horse and the Rider.

Sounds easy right? The key is to do more with thought and energy and less with restriction through Reins and legs. You can use your Reins and legs to create thought, but that alone isn't enough. You have to communicate and maintain thought while helping your horse do the same.

This is where I differ from other trainers. Yes, all trainers work on some form of cue development process. The better you understand this the better things get. You can get a horse to a do a lot of things through cues. But the real softness and suttleness comes from them being able to think with you. Not responding because they know what's next, but responding precisely at the moment it needs to happen. Always on time and never early or late.

I can't write about how this works, you have to see it. And even then you barely get anything from it until you start working to develop it.

Wednesday, March 1, 2017

Horse Problems

We all have them from time to time. Like, hard to catch, disrespectful, leaning on pressure, won't stand still, panicking,  won't go, won't stop, won't turn, and the list goes on and on.

Sometimes it's a new thing that we have not seen in this particular horse before. It appears to have just showed up out of nowhere. Other times, we no the problem exists and they have been doing this for a while. The horse may have even came with the problem.

So now for some harsh reality. Without picking on anyone or making anyone feel degraded. I put myself in this next sentence as well. Every horse problem is a problem in ourselves, not in the horse. Even if the horses issues have been on going before you ever got to them.

I'll explain. First thing is, a horse really only wants to be left alone. They are happy to just eat and engage in some play with other horses. We are the ones that WANT, WANT, WANT from them. This is where our problems all start. If a horse acts up with you in any way, try to remember this. Find a way to get them mentally engaged to where "THEY" want to be a part of what "YOU" are doing, AND allow "THEM" do it.

This is one of the most difficult things for us to do. But when you can keep this fresh in your mind and understand how to put it to use, you can do a whole lot more, doing a whole lot less.

It starts right here. This should be step one, but unfortunately, most of us don't take that step. Or we forget to on occasion.  Once you understand how this all works, you'll be happy you learned it. No matter how advanced you are in your discipline, if you didn't make this step one, I encourage you to go back and make this step one in everything you work one. If it's not working in one exercise, don't move on to the next until it is. You may find you need to go back and get it working in another exercise then come back to this one.

The concept behind this is really about getting the horse interested and caring deeply about understanding your thoughts. Appreciating you to a point that they know your inner most wants needs and desires and they are driven by their own desire to help and be a part of it. You can never have a lighter, softer, more responsive horse than one that is so mentally engaged that they understand fully what to do, and are willing to do it without your help.

This is what makes liberty work so beautiful. And how riding becomes effortless. If you get this really well, you will be able to ride without the use of Rein or leg cues. It won't always be great. It will only be great when you and your horse are communicating thought with each other.

So to put this in a different light. The first step is to care about everything your horse is thinking and know that they want to know ALL (not just some) of our thoughts as well. Once we are communicating thoughts, we'll gain in appreciation. It all gets better from there. Because that's when the magic starts happening.

Friday, March 4, 2016

Stress and Communication

Stress is something that effects every thing in the world and beyond. It is impossible to avoid. Stress comes in many forms, physical pressure, assumed pressure, emotional tension, situations, expectations and many more. A psychologist will tell you there are 3 types or groups. Acute, Episodic Acute, and Chronic stress. And great detail can be put into each classification. But for the purpose of this Blog, I just want to talk about things to look for so we can better understand there effects on our Horsemanship.

We will more easily see stress in the horses we work with before we recognize it in ourselves. It goes unnoticed in ourselves all to often. Symptoms of stress can be things like, mood changes, sickness, elevated heart rate, muscle tension or stiffness, poor circulation, depression, and Anxiety to name a few. We often miss the signs because the cause of the stress has us otherwise engaged in the problem instead of its cure. Being aware of our thoughts and feelings can help us recognize it. We can't make a change if we don't see what is really happening.

I will start by talking about recognizing stress in our horses first. This will help us later to turn the attention back onto ourselves so we can understand it better. A horse shows signs of stress frequently. You will see it in their posture and attitude first, more than likely. Inhibition and Anxiety are caused by stress and this is very noticeable when it is present in a horse. Specially if it's severe. If it's mild you may notice some movement, maybe some muscle tension or stiffness, high headed and alert, tail up or swishing, or a change in breathing. The more severe it is the more movement you will see. They start to become fixated on an idea, most often that will be getting away or what the rest of the herd is up to, but if it is real severe they may challenge you or hurt themselves to get away.

If you have worked with horses enough, then you know that the more a horse is stressed, the less they understand. The same is true that the less a horse understands the more they are stressed.When they get like this, they are not even interested in trying. They become one track minded. We do the same thing when we are stressed as well. While working with a stressful horse we become their Psychologist. We have to go back to a place where the stress is manageable. Most times we can not remove it completely but we can help them work through it if we start in a place they can handle. We offer them options and when they find them, some of the stress gets relieved. It gets relieved through understanding. The pressures of stress cause them, (and us) to feel trapped or helpless, even hopeless at times. Learning there are options gives hope. figuring out these options gives understanding and power over the stresses.

Now for us the stresses in our lives are much more complicated. We carry stresses around for decades sometimes. These stresses effect all areas of our lives. Stresses from childhood can stay with us and effect us till retirement if we don't recognize it and get a handle on it. As I mentioned above, the stresses most often go unnoticed because it keeps us fixated on the cause and not the cure. Everybody has their own stresses in life and I could write a whole book on this topic. But I really just want to shine a light on it for those of us who may not have been lucky enough to see it for what it really is and are living with it un-managed.

I guess the best way to do this is to write about a personal experience. I really don't know where to start because I know my stress begins in my childhood. I always struggled to try and fit in. Never really feeling accepted. I had friends and was good at many things. That did get me some attention. But I was not very popular. I really had no desire to be popular either. I found the popular crowd for the most part, very childish. Saying things about others to knock them down and raise themselves up. Not for me. But it did leave me feeling like an outcast. Even though I knew I could do so much. School was easy for me, I always had good grades. Maybe because it wasn't a social event for me. I was really good at sports which you would think would make me popular. But for many I saw my talent in sports made them feel less about their own skills. Many of them feeling the need to try and discredit me as a person so they don't look bad as an athlete. I never really understood what was really going on as a child but I knew I didn't like it so I stopped playing sports even though I loved it and was good at it. In a way I'm glad I did, in other ways not so much. But because I stopped activities like that in 8th grade, I started studying up on things like Understanding human behavior and my interest in horses. I never knew the 2 would go so good together. I learned at a young age that all the stuff I was experiencing was typical and an understanding of what was really going on. It gave me some relief, but the stresses still follow me around even today. Even though I know all of that was not directly related to me. They were just dealing with and responding to their own stresses which did directly effect me. I have learned to forgive the people in my past and any here in the present because of my understanding. But seeing it all around me happening to so many people it is still stressful to me.Though now I am more equipped to deal with it.

Another example I can give that shows how stress can effect communication. More recent in my life, In August of 2014 I broke my ankle. Being self employed with an overhead that I needed to cover, being out of commission for even just a couple weeks is difficult never mind not being up to full capacity for 6 to 8 months. Between the financial stresses, the worry of how good and fast I would heal, not being able to do things for myself and relying on others, not being able to be a positive part of other peoples lives, and maybe more that I just haven't recognized. I was really slipping into a depression. A few people really stepped up and helped and for them I am truly great full. But being a person who would rather give than to receive, it was very stressful for me to know that my problem became their problem. I had no way to compensate them. All I could do was say thank you. Falling behind financially (to a point in which I still have not fully recovered) I attempted to do a demonstration 6 months after my ankle brake. There were many stresses involved with myself and the horse in this Demo. Even though I felt I was being scammed by the horses owner, which turned out later to be true, I felt a strong need to do this Demo for many reasons.  I felt like I needed to show people that I am healed and ready to work again so people would start coming for help again. My financial situation depended on it. I really needed to feel needed at that point after needing others so much for the last 6 months. Also the fact that I wasn't able to work the way I would've normally worked because it was winter, even though we had a heated arena, It was so cold out side that the ground froze and lifted at the front door to where it wouldn't open. Because of this and the fact that people had to come in through the barn, I set up a round pen in the arena so people could come and go through the arena. I would've normally worked this horse loose in the arena and not in such a confined area. There were a lot of stresses involved for the horse as well. She was 6 years old and not even weaned from her mom. Still nursing in fact. She had never been worked with and never had left the place where she was born. So you could imagine how stressful being in an indoor arena, fenced in a 45 foot round pen out of site of her mom, with people all around would be to her.  What that horse needed in that situation was to be worked in a typical round pen fashion. Being as I don't care to work like that and I would rather have had her loose in the arena, letting her get as far away from everyone as possible and work at building her confidence to come be with me. I didn't see what the horse really needed. I wanted so bad  to show my method of working and didn't pay enough attention to the stresses of the situation. Her stress on top of my stress made it so that there was pretty much no communication. I was never able to show what I intended to that day. The good thing is I learned a very valuable lesson in planning and compassion. I kept the horse for a week and worked with her the way she needed me to and made great progress before I brought her home. Unfortunately I didn't get to show it in the Demo. But this is a great example of how stress can effect communication and how easy it is to go unnoticed at the time. It really made a mess of things that day. A mistake I am sad to have made, but grateful for what it has taught me.

It really is important to manage our stress on a daily basis. It is difficult but truly necessary. Stress blocks out the truth sometimes.  It causes inhibition and anxiety. That worry doesn't allow us to see what is really there. Unfortunately life is becoming more and more stressful. More of the truth is being lost every day. Because of how each and every one of us deal with stress, we end up passing our stress on to someone else. When it changes hands like that it gets changed into something different. Blinding us all into our own little reality. Its no wonder everyone is arguing, taking sides and getting offended. And unfortunately again it creates more stress. Interfering with our communications. Through Faith, Hope and Understanding we can wash away our worries and fears. ISAIAH 35:5 Then the eyes of the blind will be opened and the ears of the deaf will be unstopped.

Thanks for reading






Monday, February 29, 2016

MOTIVATION

Motivation is really just energy in the form of desire. If we can build energy and convert it to desire or even inspiration, We can create Motivation. Whether it be we are motivating ourselves, someone else or our horses. Many of us have no problem building energy. That's the easy part. Making sure it doesn't turn into anxiety or inhibition is where the difficulty is. Energy that is misunderstood causes worry or concern. This causes anxiety and inhibition. Even massive amounts of energy, as long as it is clear and understood, will guide and encourage and lead to desire. Inspiring desire with guidance is very strong motivation.

I chose this topic for my own personal reasons. I write this Blog to help others but for me its a way to dig into a subject to find facts and better understanding on things that have come up with me or someone I am working with at the time. Sometimes, I use it as a way to keep things fresh in my mind during times that are slow and I don't have as many customers coming for lessons and classes to keep things fresh. This time of year things slow way down, so I have to work hard at Motivating myself. Motivation is something we all need to help keep us going. It is an important factor in life. Without it we feel as though we really have no purpose. We become lazy. Its important for us to find motivation daily.

Everyone is slightly different when it comes to what motivates them. For me, my biggest motivator is knowing I am doing something worth while. If I get to feeling like its a useless cause, or nobody really cares, then I lose motivation. I am sure I'm not alone. Just by writing this I feel like I am doing something worthy for myself and anyone who may read it. therefore its motivating to me. I hope it is for you as well.

Other motivations can be from expectations of others, we may be financially motivated, we can be motivated by fear of something happening, we can be motivated through inspiration, wanting to finish something, or being a part or something may motivate us. I'm sure there are many more.

In Horsemanship, we not only need to be motivated, we need to find ways to motivate. For me to motivate is to inspire and encourage. To inspire creates desire and drive. To encourage builds confidence. If we are confident, we are more motivated to try. If we have desire, drive and confidence, there is nothing that can stop us from doing whatever we are trying to accomplish. I said above, doing something worth while is encouraging for me so this is how I like to motivate. By offering a task that has purpose to the horse, it will motivate them and encourage them. I feel it builds desire. This example may have a half a dozen or more stages to it before it gets to the end result. Mainly because they may not understand it all, they may not have confidence, or have a low self esteem in the beginning. But having a purpose and a reason for being is very motivating. So be sure to give purpose to your tasks, it will surely help with motivation.

There are many ways people try to motivate a horse. They fall into 2 simple groups. Positive reinforcement and negative reinforcement. Basically positive reinforcement lets them know when they did something right and negative reinforcement lets them know they did something wrong. There are many techniques out there. Some of them use both positive and negative at the same time. Some times, if your not aware of all the variables, Positive reinforcement can have a negative effect and negative reinforcement can have a positive effect. Having a better understanding of things will help you through this.

Positive reinforcement is the preferred method and by far the best use of motivation in Horsemanship. Done properly it is a great way to work. Its encouraging, its builds trust, confidence, and understanding for what we want. But I have to say, I see a lot of positive reinforcement that really makes a mess of things. What many people don't understand is, that we can positively reinforce the try right out of a horse. Or in some cases, positively reinforce bad behavior. I see it all the time. We need to be careful of this. If we reward a try, that's positive reinforcement. If we never advance, holding them to a higher standard as we progress, then they learn to just do the bare minimum.  Any time your horse gets nervous and you try to reassure them, you are reassuring their nervousness. Every time you use food as a positive reinforcement to trick your horse to be caught, you are reassuring that they really can't trust you. Treats as reward if done properly are fine, but as trickery you lose points. Even though it works.

Asking a horse to do a job is a form of Positive reinforcement and a great way to motivate. It gives them purpose and reason to respond once they know what its all about. Knowing they are doing something worth while puts their mind towards a worthy cause and away from fear and inhibitions. As I said above, they may not have the confidence at first. But with encouragement and guidance their confidence will come.

Negative reinforcement is commonly used as well. Even though it has some benefits, I think it should be a last resort use. Example. Some people will instantly whack a horse for trying to bite them. Understandably I guess. But there are ways to do this positively without whacking. Like, ask them to do something that gets them to move their mouth away from you, like side pass or turn on the haunches, then reward them for doing it. If you are clear about how close their mouth can come to you, they won't try to bite. You maintain leadership and gain respect. A real persistent horse may not get it and then, "Last resort" you whack them. But give them plenty of time to learn what you do want first. Negative reinforcement works but just like tricking with food, you lose trust. If you have to do it more than one time, you need to reevaluate your process.

Anytime I feel that I need to make a correction, I like to do what I call "Redirect and Reward" This is a form of using Positive and Negative reinforcement at the same time. By saying, "No, don't do that, do this instead" I find this to be a great way to motivate and redirect unwanted energy and behavior. If we have a bunch of things that our horse can do and do well, even when they are misbehaving. Then we always have something we can do to redirect their energy and focus. To me its the best way to turn a negative into a positive. It gives more to encouragement and less to discouragement. It definitely keeps you respected and trusted. Every now and then you will have to make a correction, that is fact. But if we just correct, they may learn, but its negative and discouraging. If we redirect, we create an opportunity to reward, which is positive and encouraging. We create more desire to comply and less desire to misbehave.

Its nice when we get to the point that we can motivate with a simple request. When we are with our horse, riding or what have you. If we have a desire in us and the horse to help each other, then we are both easily motivated. If this is the case then each step and every move is in perfect time with needs and wants from both of us. We are connected through thoughts, needs and desires. Everything feels seamless. Motivations just happens. No need to ever think about it.

Thanks again for reading along. I hope you enjoyed it and find it Motavating.






Wednesday, February 24, 2016

All The Worlds Problems

I'd like to talk about all the problems of the world. Each and every problem. Politics, Religion, Race, Sex, and the all around Social Disorder. All of it is a product of You and Me. If you can't see your direct connection in it, then your responsibility is greater than the average. Let me explain.

The main problem with everything above is, Everyone is looking to tip the scales in their favor and not looking for balance. This is everywhere. I don't care if your Republican or Democrat, or if you are one of many religions, ethnic backgrounds, or sexual orientations. We see it in special interest groups, and even in sports and activities. Everyone, no matter what they stand for or believe in, has to be right or in control of the opposition.

This is why I strive to be as neutral as possible and have always been an Independent in Politics. You may hear me praise or criticize one or the other from time to time.  But I strive to be a truth seeker, looking for balance and an understanding for both sides.

I don't care what topic you want to discus. As many sides as there may be, they are all right and they are all wrong. We need to find the balance in all things. Opposition is important to help find the balance. The problem is, we as humans, want to tip the scales in our own favor. This causes more push back from the other side. Nobody wants to be held down, and you can't blame them.

Now I don't want this to be about Politics, Race and Religion. I want people to see that this applies in everything we do in life. I work with horses, as do many people. There are many people that will knock another for many reasons. Such as, they may not want a customer to go to the other person, they may feel that one way is better than the other, or that no one should use the other way, or everyone should use this one way. Whatever it is, its everywhere, no matter what you do, or where you go. And it all seems to be linked to Jealousy, Selfishness and Control.

For the Political point of view. As I said above, I am Independent and I am so glad I am. What is going on in Politics these days is pathetic. Over the years, I leaned one way or another at times. Right now being caught in the middle of all this ridiculousness is driving me crazy. The Republicans have been doing everything in their power to hold back progress that the President has been trying to make.  I'm not saying I agree with everything the President is trying to do and I am not saying the Republicans are wrong. What I am saying is, "It is very clear to me that no matter what the policy is that's up for debate, the Republicans shoot it down just to gain the upper hand." I see it here in my own state with our Republican Governor doing everything he can against anything Democrat just because its Democrat. It is not about policy at all. Many things that the Republicans have been pushing for themselves are being shot down just so the Democrats don't get credit for it. To me this is rotten. As far as what each side stands for right now, I would have to say I am leaning 55% Republican and 45% Democrat. But I am totally appalled by the people in the Republican Party and their behavior right now. The saying is true, United We Stand, Divided We Fall. If we can't come together, and work together, WE ARE DONE, as a Nation.

The Racial problems are ridiculous as well. It don't matter where your from, the color of your skin, or the language you speak. You are a human being, and we should all act as one. The problems in this is that most of us will identify ourselves as one thing or another. That makes us feel like we need to stand up for the cause. This goes into other areas as well. Like Gay, Lesbian, or Straight, Republican and Democrat, White, Black, Hispanic, or what have you. Even our Religions and life's works. Sports fans rioting in the streets after an event. Its great to believe in things and have an opinion, we need that in the world. But what we don't need is blind faith and standing up for something with out looking at all the facts. We get sucked in by momentum and think we are helping when in fact we are just destroying the world.

For the Religious people out there. I would like to suggest that you take a look at as many other Religions that you can. They are not all that much different when you take a real close look. Yes they say things very different on certain subjects. But at the heart of them all is a God, or in some cases many, and our need to love and worship all that they created. Why is it we are not all doing just that?

Many Religions believe in a Great Plague near the end times. I feel that this Plague is our own corrupt thoughts. Poisoning our thoughts and confusing what it is we see and understand. The only commandment given in the first days. GENESIS 2:16, 17 The Lord God commanded the man saying,"From any tree of the garden you may eat freely; but from the tree of knowledge of good and evil you shall not eat, for the day that you eat from it you will surely die."
I believe this is the most important clue to life.  And the answer for what will come through repentance, and the search for righteousness, written into every book of the bible. Old Testament and New.  One in particular is ISAIAH 35;5  Then will the eyes of the blind be opened and the ears of the deaf unstopped.

As it is now we see what we want to see and hear what we want to hear. Or so it seams. We are Misguided and Misdirected by others thoughts and opinions. You are being controlled by the masses. Being tricked into thinking in certain ways that force you in a direction that someone in control wants you to go. We don't see it because they play on our own emotional weaknesses. Knowing our minds won't fight it. Putting us right in the middle of a battle that can't be won. This keeps escalating, Therefore WE, US, EVERYONE is to blame for all the problems in the world.

In closing I would truly like to wish you all the best in life.
Peace to all.
Thanks.
   
    

Thursday, February 18, 2016

Qualify For The Position

Have you ever watched someone work and notice right away that they were not qualified to be doing that job. We see it all the time. Some employers know they are hiring someone who is in need of training. They are giving them a shot to become Qualified to do the job. If it doesn't work out they let them go and try another. Many people go to school or take classes to become Qualified for a position they want. But the lack of people willing to QUALIFY themselves for a position is making it harder to apply for a qualified position. There are cases when people apply for a position with a resume that looks impressive. They appear qualified. Once hired the employer wonders who this person is because they are not the qualified person they hired.

Now, there are plenty of people who are qualified to do their jobs. And if it appears that I am bashing the rest of the population, that is not my intention. My intention is to show that only the ones that are passionate about what they do, the ones that really love what they do, will ever really become qualified. The rest are just working because they have bills to pay. This is a problem with society not necessarily a personal problem with each individual. But that is not what I want to discuss. 

The real meaning behind this topic is Qualifying for the leadership roll in our Horsemanship. Our horses need us to be the qualified leader that they expect us to be. This is the reason they test us. They want to know, "Are You Qualified?" The only way you could be is if you are truly passionate about, and love your horse enough to make sure you will become the leader they need and deserve. This includes continued learning and growth along with them. If you just want to ride them or feel obligated to take care of them, THAT is NOT, ENOUGH. They need to know that you are Mentally, Physically  and Emotionally strong enough if their life should ever be in danger. And we all know, a horse  always thinks they're in danger. Unless we are the leader they need. Then they relax. But only if they "KNOW" you understand and they learn to trust you.

Take this example: Many people go out and buy a horse that is already trained and doing very well. This is a good thing to do. But you can't just buy a well trained horse and expect them to be good for you. They may be doing great for their current owner, but respect is not always transferable. If you do not develop a relationship with this horse, you will not get the same results. 

Now for another example: If you buy a horse that is really advanced in their training, and you are not. How is it possible for you to be Qualified to lead in this situation. If you have ever worked for someone who had less qualifications than you, then you can understand what I mean by this. It causes a lot of friction and problems. They are trying to lead you with less understanding than you. A very difficult relationship. In the human world, people get hired for many different reasons. They are good at interviewing, writing resumes, They're a friend or family member, and so on and so on. We are good at pretending and exaggerating our qualifications. This doesn't work with the horse. They won't let us in. They will make sure we are qualified before they let us take over. 

So how do we become qualified? 
Through knowledge, experience, and practice. Gaining understanding of all aspects of the position. We can do it on our own through trial and error, or we can take lessons and classes from someone who is more qualified. Which is a great option. Doing it alone we are sure to run into more problems. The good news is, we will learn from the problems as well. The bad news is, problems with horses can be painful or deadly. Even with a qualified trainer or instructor, there is still risk and danger.  

How do we find a qualified trainer or instructor? 
This is a great question. There are many trainers and instructors out there students can learn from. Some are more qualified than others. Sometimes it will depend on what it is you want to learn. You can learn from anyone. Even if they are less qualified than you are. But if your going to spend hard earned money, then you should do your homework. Find someone who has the skills you want to learn. Not just someone who says they have the skills, but someone who actually does. Like I mentioned above, people are good at faking their qualifications. Take a page out the horses book and get proof that they are what you need. You can ask around and get references. You may have to try them out for a little while. If it doesn't work out then try someone else. See if they will let you watch them give a lesson, a session with them working or riding a horse or any way you can see for yourself what they can offer you as a student before you actually get started. Some places will even do a free introductory lesson. 

Just don't let convenience be your only reason, make sure your getting what you need and want. 
Everyone is worth looking into. They all have something you can learn. You just need to figure out what it is you are looking for, and find that person or people who can help you get it. Often times it will be in many places, from many different people. If you are going to someone who discourages you from learning elsewhere, be weary. Often times its selfishness on their part and they will hold your progress back. It is impossible to get everything you need all in one place. Talk to anyone with skills and they will all tell you, they have many mentors. 

So I encourage you to find every opportunity to qualify yourself.  You owe it to yourself but most importantly, you owe it to your horse.

Remember this as well, there is always more to learn, and there is always room for improvement. 
No matter how qualified you are.
Thank you for reading. 





















Wednesday, January 27, 2016

BENEFITS

We all know the term, and many of us look for benefit packages before we even apply for a job. The dictionary explains Benefit as: An advantage or profit gained from something. The sad and simple truth is, nobody does anything without it benefiting them in some way shape or form.
Some of us are real selfish and there really needs to be something very worthy in order for us to even put effort into something. Others the benefit could be real simple, Like, it makes us happy to do something for someone else. Whatever the scenario, Benefits are Motivators.

I'm writing on this topic because if you understand what a benefit is, and you know how to use it in Horsemanship, (Or anything else) it can make a huge difference in the outcomes you are trying to attain.

The simple explanation is this. Make sure that what you want from them benefits them by doing it. Also that anything we do not want from them should not benefit them by doing it. That's the simple answer but some may see this as a riddle and get confused. So here's an example.

If we ask for something from our horse, we want him to get a benefit by doing it. In many cases this can be just a simple release of pressure. This example is what one may call, "A Perfect World Example" This sums up our end result for what it should be like pretty well. But many people have "Problem Horses" Not really but that is what they get Labeled as. The problems get created when the horse does something and our response makes it Beneficial for them to try it again. If they keep benefiting, they keep doing it and they get better at it with practice. We don't really want them to get better at "THIS". There are so many examples for "THIS" I couldn't possibly get to them all. I really mean it. Start putting this into practice and you will see it in every interaction at almost every moment you are with them. If you really understand this and know how to put it into use respectfully, it can change your world. Problems will go away because they will not benefit from the misbehavior. Only willing, relaxed, cooperative response will benefit them. So that is how they will behave, willing, relaxed and cooperative. That will bring you closer to the "Perfect World Example"

Implementing this might not be easy. Specially if you are not aware of what is really happening. But just by reading this your eyes will be opened to looking for it. Keep looking, there will be more to see. Once you are aware of it, it will start getting easier and you will keep finding more. The more you heighten your awareness, the better and easier it gets. Sometimes our lack of confidence allows them to intimidate us and our fear response gives them benefit to their actions. We want to be careful of this. Fear and lack of confidence is OK but we need to evaluate a way to stay safe and find a way to take their benefit away in times like this. If you find a way, then your confidence is boosted. You will have less fear because you will learn that you have some control of the situation. Sometimes they frustrate us into giving up. This they see as benefiting them as well. If they know you will quit, they will wait you out. Sometimes they try to change your mind. Like  if you want to go one way and they go the opposite direction.  Most people will give up on their way and turn the horse in the direction they want to go, circling back to where the person wanted to go in the first place. This seems like a win to most people but if you evaluate it closer you see the horse gets benefits by changing your mind. You not only lose control but your leadership is at risk and the horse will start to question everything you ask of them because they lose trust in your ability to lead. Most of the time they are doing things like this just to see your response to it. This is where you gain or lose points with a horse. They test your leadership by trying to change your mind or direction. They are not being defiant in most cases. Just trying to see if you are worth following.

As a great leader you will give benefits to receive benefits. The simple laws of karma. They apply directly here. No waiting for it to come back around. It's instant once it's established. If it benefits them to comply with our task they will. If we do not allow their misbehavior to benefit them, they will stop misbehaving. Both of these will lead to a willing, relaxed and cooperative relationship for both you and your horse. Both of you will Benefit and really enjoy your time together.

I hope you find some BENEFIT in this post. Pun intended. I wrote this to Benefit everyone who reads it.
Thanks for reading along.

Monday, January 25, 2016

Thoughts Create Feelings and Feelings Create Thoughts

It is true that what we are thinking, affects how we are feeling. You can prove this just by looking at someone who is quietly thinking and see the expression on their face. You may not be able to tell exactly what they are thinking, but you can tell what types of thoughts they are having I.E. Happy, Sad, Evaluating, Comparing, etc, etc, just by their expression.

It is also true that how we feel effects how we think. We have all experienced how what we feel emotionally affects our response in a certain situation. This is because our emotions are an instinct to help protect and guide us through life. Its the one thing in our life that we trust more than anything else in the rest of the world. We take value in our feelings, therefore it affects how we think. When we have a feeling or feel a certain way about something, we tend to see it as fact or absolute which creates thoughts in that direction. How we feel, is and should be, the most important thing to us.

Thoughts creating feeling and feeling creating thought is a very interesting thing. Understanding this its easy to see why humans are habit forming creatures. The cycle of thought and feeling can keep us in places we really don't want to be. This example here to me is the only negative aspect. You see our own conscious thought can break the cycle and redirect us where we do want to go. All we need to do is recognize it and do something about it.

When we go through our daily rituals like wake up, go to work, come home, do our chores, and go to bed. We end up following the flow, living life Unconsciously. Throughout each day our subconscious tries to interfere to help snap us out of the trance we are in. It does this by giving us a feeling or a thought  that we should respond to. Sometimes we ignore it, sometimes we respond to it.
By living our lives consciously, we can be in control of the flow. This is difficult for people who live very busy lives and for those who have little or nothing to do all day. The busy folks are to busy responding to stimulus and the ones who don't have much going on have little to no stimulus at all. But, if you make a conscious effort, it can be done by everyone. Our minds need to be active and engaged, not on auto pilot if we want to make the needed changes.

This cycle can start with a thought or it could start with a feeling. It all depends on what we have for response tendencies. Some people tend to feel more and allow it to control their thoughts. Some think more and allow it to control how they feel. Every one of us have different tendencies. One way is not necessarily better than the other. Each has its own benefits and flaws. So its good to experiment with both. Try to think of things to control your feelings, as well as practice being aware of how you feel in regards to what you're thinking. This way you heighten your self awareness and your ability to recognize, interrupt, and be in control of needed change.

This may sound like a contradiction but I  assure you it is not. Though we need to make a conscious effort, we can still let our emotions and feel take the lead. When I work with the horses, I do my best to allow feel and emotion guide my thoughts. BUT, before I go to the horse, and often while I am working with them, I use my thoughts to organize my emotions and feel responses. Being able to use both thought and feel together at the same time and letting one lead the other slightly, allows our mind to stay actively engaged. Thoughts can lead and we can use feeling to balance the thoughts or if feeling and emotions lead our mind can be used as a filter to balance feelings and emotions. We need to use them together and not leave one out completely. When I get busy or overwhelmed and forget to do this or end up just going with the flow, it affects the quality of my visit. The more I practice this, the more it becomes natural to me.

Some of the things I see to be very common. Is that most people go throughout their day and lives by responding to different stimulus. When they go spend time with their horse they do the same thing, respond to the horse. This often puts them in a follower position and the horse ends up in control. Others go in thinking they need to show them who's boss. This, if not careful, can create animosity in the horse towards them, which can get the horse challenging authority, or in many cases the horse becomes fearful and hesitant.  If we can lead with feel and emotion, we can better connect to their wants, needs, feelings and emotions. By doing this "THEIR" feelings and emotions guide "OUR" thought. When we can respond to their thoughts before they become an action,  they know, that we know, what they are thinking. This makes them trust us unconditionally. IF, IF, IF, I can't say it enough, if we respond appropriately. Knowing our end result ahead of time and not being in to much of a hurry to get there, will help us respond appropriately.  This makes us more effective as a leader because we become better informed. You can "Read Their Body Language" but then you have to translate it. That takes time, even if it is only a second or 2. By connecting with their feelings and emotions and allowing it guide our thoughts there is no translating. We also have better timing in our response because we are thinking the same thoughts at the same time as the horse. Therefore connected by thought and feel. A true partnership.

How a horse feels, controls what they will think. If they are comfortable, they have productive thoughts. If they are uncomfortable, they have unproductive thoughts. If we change how they feel about something, we can change the way they think about it. Therefore controlling the response. Learning to feel and find the line between comfortable and uncomfortable, in every situation, will help us find their best learning zone. Also, by planting a thought in their mind we can change the way they feel. Again gaining control of their response. As I mentioned above about us having our minds active and mentally engaged, the same applies to the horse. We need them mentally engaged. If they are disconnected mentally, they will be disconnected emotionally as well.  Its our ability to connect to how they feel that will get their interest in us. It starts with a little interest, and in a short time you can have full mental engagement.  In just an hour or two, you can be connected by thought and feel. Staying with it, it just keeps getting better over time. 

In conclusion I would like to see if I could get you to try the above exercises. Thinking to change how you feel and your emotional state, As well as emotional awareness in yourself, your horse or in others. This exercise will really help you. I know for me it brings clarity. It also allows me to lead with thought or to let feeling lead my thoughts and to be able to go from one to the other seamlessly at times. It will make a huge difference in your horses ability to understand you and for you to understand your horse. It will also help you in your everyday life like, goal setting, strategies to get there, and interactions with others. You won't be restricted to just one path.
Thank You for taking the time to read this.

Saturday, January 16, 2016

How Well Do You Know Your Horse

How well do you know your horse? This sounds like a simple question.  But in reality its not. When answering questions like this we want to stick to the facts and not go on assumptions. Some of us think we know our horses so well and yet they always amaze us when we learn something new about them. The truth is, there is always more to learn.

Many of us know our Horses pretty well. We know when we approach the gate whether they will meet us there, leave in a hurry, or not acknowledge us at all. Some of us know that they meet us at the gate expecting a treat or that they are truly happy to see us. Many do not know the difference. The same goes for the horse that runs off in a hurry. Are they playing games? Do they not like us or what we have in store for them? Do "They" even know why they are running?

Most of the time we miss out on the truth because we are focused on our own agenda and miss all the little nuances that tell the rest of the story. Or we guess at reasons and make up excuses 

Most of us don't even know its possible to know all the ins and outs of our Horse, so they don't even know to try. 

If we stick to facts it will help us learn the rest. For instance. 
How old are they?
What breed or breeds?
What color?
Do they have any special markings? 
What is their feeding schedule?
How much do they eat?
How much do they waste?
Do they have any tickle spots?
Do they have any favorite spots?
Do they have any "don't touch" spots?
Where is their favorite place to stand or lay down, (in the stall or their turnout)? 
Do they poop and pee in the same spot or area all the time?   
How well do they know your cues and signals?
What cues and signals do they know?
Do they have any habits, (good or bad)?
Can you tell what they're thinking without guessing?
Many many more questions can be asked.
The facts here are really whats important. The simple facts are your key to understanding. Its not important to know why in most cases. Just that it is or isn't is usually enough. In most cases, if we start looking for reasons, we often end up with excuses. A good example for this is, I was evaluating a horse at Pony Club for a girl. I noticed the horse was very stiff and not bending softly and commented on it. The girl pointed out a scare on the horses side do to either an injury or surgery, I don't remember exactly, but she said this was why he was stiff and can't bend well, I then moved to the horses hip and started to tickle the back edge of his ribs to test her theory. Wouldn't you know the horse came all the way around just as easy as could be just to see what I was up to. I did this on both sides with similar results. So her search for why became a reason and for her it was FACT that the horse was not capable of bending softly, when really the horse just learned to brace and resist. If we keep it simple, we can make better sense of it all. As time moves on, we can ask more complex questions and answer them as "Matters of Fact" as well.

Most of us are unaware of how well our horses know us. In most cases,  they know us better than we know ourselves. The reason for this is their ability to stick to the facts and not get caught up in any what ifs. They do things, then, they measure our response to it. That's all they need to know. Simple, but so effective as an instinct for survival. Just remember this. If we are responding to them, then they are in the leader role. So transition your response to them into you asking them to respond to you for a length of time that shows you they understand.  If they do that, you are going to do this until they understand. A slap or scolding that only lasts a few seconds is not very effective. But a polite ask for a turn on the haunches asking that same shoulder to move away from you after they walk into you with their shoulder, will make so much more sense to them. You may have to get assertive at times, but explaining what you want works better than a no or a punishment. 

For us. We tend to have self projected images of what we want things to be. This tends to effect our perception of reality. Its great to have a goal, but we need to realize what is needed to get there. Not just pretend we are there already. There is a big difference and many stages in between. We even tend to do it with our own self image, pretending to be who we want to be, not who we really are at the moment. We have all seen the children who are not very well behaved, but the parent only wants to believe the best in their child so they ignore the truth. WE ALL DO THIS. Whether with Ourselves, Friends, Spouses, Children, or Pets. Its not a bad thing to believe and expect the best, but it can be a problem if we are missing out on the truth. Sticking to the facts of what is or isn't can help us see the real picture.

So stick to the facts. Understanding simple facts will lead to understanding more complex facts. Done in a proper progression it can lead to an unimaginable understanding.
Thanks for reading along.

Monday, January 11, 2016

Saying Hello

Hello. Glad you are taking the time to read this. Most often a greeting or conversation starts off by getting someones attention with a simple, Hello. A simple greeting which can be said in so many ways. Such as Hi, Hey, or even What's up. All around the world there are so many different ways to say Hello. In France = Salut, Germany and Netherlands = Hallo, Italy = Ciao, China = Ni hao, Israel = Shalom, Brazil =Ola.  This is just a few, there are literally  thousands of ways to say Hello or to get someones attention in a greeting.

You might be asking why I am writing about this. I have noticed how things are done or spoken about a little differently depending on where you are and who you're with. For some, this can be intimidating.

Just as every Culture, Country, and Location has their own way of saying Hello. And it can be different even just walking into a different neighborhood. Everything else in life is the same way. We all have our ways of doing things. Sometimes it is the same way as many others, but not everyone does things or says things the same way.

In many ways we learn how others do and say things on a daily basis. Sometimes we make fun of their ways. But even so, we learn from it even if we don't want to. What we learn from it depends on how we think of it, how well we can relate to them, and how well they can relate to us. Negative thoughts bring poor results, and trying to understand brings positive results.

In Horsemanship, it is the same way. I have studied so many great Horseman, Trainers and Instructors. Though they have different methods and techniques. They are all very much the same. They start with an introduction to the Horse, a simple Hello. Though there are many ways to do this. Some try to mimic another Horse, some rope them out of a herd for a face too face conversation, and some will just watch and wait till the Horse introduces them self. These are just a few of the more common ways I've seen, there are many more. Now. A true Horseman would never talk down about another Horseman's method or technique. Instead, if they notice a problem in the method or technique, they would look for insight on what to be aware of if they chose to use this method. In this way, their thoughts stay on building up and improvement, not on discrediting or destruction. There is always something useful there. Horsemanship is about improving ourselves and our horses understanding and capabilities. The better your ability to help, (you, your horse, or others) the more of a horseman you become.

Just like you would understand someone who speaks your language better than someone who doesn't. If you choose to learn from someone, it should be someone you can relate to. Or, someone who can at least relate to you. Some times we don't know what we want or need. Sometimes we think we need one thing but really we need something else. Finding someone who can help us figure this out is very helpful. The best example I can give to this is if you have a horse that won't go in a trailer, over a tarp or walk by something (you can fill in the blank). The trailer, the tarp or whatever, is not the real problem. Most of the time its things like, They don't trust your leadership, they need help with their leading skills, or they simply don't understand the task. It can be a bunch of different things. Knowing how to ask all the important questions and listening to the answers, as well as hearing and answering their questions, will help you get to the real issues and provide for them what they really need. This all has to start with getting their attention. A simple greeting like Hello. For the Horse and the Human.

Sometimes we need to go back to square one and start from the beginning again. Most problems are caused from holes in our foundations. Kinda like jumping in on the middle of a conversation and missing out on many things that can help us understand better. So many times the problem is just that they don't have their horses attention. Many people who have been doing things for a long time, forget to go back to basics. Just because we have been riding for 25 years doesn't mean we don't need beginner level refreshments. In fact, Every time I have a new Horse or Student, or I study a new Trainer or Horseman, I start with their entry level. The main reason is that I am starting a possible new language. Just like if I wanted to learn a new verbal language I would start with a simple greeting like, "Hello"

My reasons for studying any and all Trainers and Horseman that I can are many. I want to learn as much as I can, I am always looking for motivation, and I want to be able to get the attention of a horse or a human by knowing all the different ways to start a conversation in ways they understand. This will help me hold their attention. I work with so many different people and horses its very helpful being well versed in different methods, techniques and philosophies as well as being able to apply my own take on things. It allows me to relate to the people and their horses. I can tell what methods a horse was trained with almost as soon as I start working with them, Just as you can tell where someone is from just by the way they talk and act. It all begins with how they respond to "Hello"

So many people never get started into something because they don't know where to start. I have had so many people come to an event or clinic where they feel more confident to approach me to say Hi and tell me they have been meaning to call me. Most often I can feel their reason for hesitance. I promise I don't kick or bite, I've been trained well. So for anyone who reads this, just know that you have an open invitation to contact me any way you know how. Even if you just want to say Hello, or to tell me a little something about yourself and your horse. As always I welcome all of your questions and would be more than happy to answer them for you.

All it takes is to introduce yourself and say, "Hello"  Starting an attentive conversation. Ask questions and listen to the answers. This applies to EVERYTHING. People, Horses and Things. Projects and tasks of any kind as well.

Thanks for reading along. I hope you found it useful.

Tuesday, January 5, 2016

PRE-RIDE CHECKLIST

I write this post today, not so that we look at it as a must have before we go. But as a way to evaluate what needs improvement or what we may need to be aware of to stay safe. Also as a motivation for improvement.

There is always room for improvement. And something can always go sour. Many times you can tell if you are going to have problems right when you go get your horse to start your session. Sometimes a Pre-ride check will tell me not to ride, but to work on other things instead. This is usually on green horses or problem horses that have just come in for training. After the first 8 hrs or so, I use the Pre-ride to see what I should be focusing my attention on during our time together.

Many of us don't stay in a constant state of evaluation. I personally think it is very important. Being as changing behavior is relatively easy, (most of the time) why would you not evaluate what you have so you can make an improvement. Simple improvements in one area make huge differences in many other areas. To me, I feel I owe it to the horse. They are my responsibility. I need to be the leader they deserve.

For me, my evaluations start as soon as the horse comes into view or hearing distance. I am looking to know what their emotional state is. I am also looking to see if they are interested in me or trying to avoid me. Ideally I strive to have a horse calm but happy to see me. When they do see me I would like them to respectfully come to me and if I present a halter to them, they lower their head and put their nose into the nose band quietly for me. But I am happy to accept a horse that will patiently wait for me as long as they are paying attention to me as I approach and not looking for an escape root. I know what is possible to get without to much trouble so at every session I take mental notes of what can be improved on. Every session gets better and you would be amazed what 15 minutes a day will bring after a week.

Once I have my horse and we are going to get ready for our ride, I pay close attention to everything along the way.
Is he nervous or calm?
Is he lagging behind or hurrying ahead?
Is he crowding me or trying to stay or get away?
There are a few more examples I could give but the point I'm trying to make is, "If it isn't what you would like it to be, then make a change so that eventually it will be." It doesn't have to happen all at once, but you would be amazed at how just knowing what you want can make a difference without even doing anything else. Your thoughts alone bring mental energy. That all by itself can make changes in you, that will also make changes in the horse.

As I mentioned, I am always evaluating. So when I am grooming and tacking I am looking for improvement there as well. I expect a horse to stand quietly and patiently for the process. If they don't then I know I need to work on something. I know that without to much trouble at all, you can have a horse stand quietly for all this. I often bring my stuff into my herd and do it all with them loose right there. Having them coming to me, listening to my body language to position themselves where I want them, and they stand and wait for me to do what I need to do.

Again when its time to get on I evaluate how they feel about what we are about to do.
Will he swing over to pick me up or is he trying to get away or stall?
Does he stand still and wait once I am on or start to leave in a hurry?
How well is he listening to my seat aids?
How well is he listening to my leg aids?
How well is he listening to my rein aids?
All this is important because if we need 1 pound of pressure to get a response in a calm environment, we may need 3 pounds in a slightly stressful environment. Even more in an extremely stressful one. So if we can strive to get results with just ounces of pressure in a calm place, then you also have better results when they are stressed. I purposely put the seat, leg and rein aids in that order. I did so because if you can get results with your seat, then you may not have to use your leg or rein. If you do, it will be just to help them find your feel.

I often ride bareback and bridle less on Shea and Stoney. Most of the time I don't even need to use my legs. Sometimes I do, and sometimes I may need to touch or tap the side of their neck as well. If it happens that I do need more than my seat and energy, I know I need to work on that. Sometimes fixing this takes me back to when I go out and get them. That part and all other parts in between needs to be solid if bareback and bridle less is going to work at all. never mind on seat and energy alone.

So keep a check list even it is just mental notes. Try to have an end result you would like and wash the dirty stuff till it shines. You can't make improvements without trying. Wishing won't make it happen. You have to work at it. Even a little a day makes a big difference in week, a huge difference in a month, and an unimaginable difference in a year. If you strive to make each session better than the last and to try to end better than you started, then you will improve. It is as simple as that.

Thanks for reading along, and if you have any questions on any of this, feel free to contact us any way you would like. In the comments here or on the Blog sight, email, messaging, call or text. We would be glad to answer them for you.
Thanks Again.

 

Wednesday, December 9, 2015

Being Significant And Humble

As the title suggests, we can be and have significance yet be humble at the same time. It can be a balancing act. At times you may step across the line in either direction.

To be significant means we have a purpose and a reason for our actions. Give a person purpose and you will see a positively motivated individual. Take purpose away from a person and you will see a self conscious individual who is negatively motivated and may very well have a low self esteem.

To be significant, we need a task that we understand and can see through to the end. The end result becomes the motivation to succeed. When it comes to having significance to others, that's about us showing our value to them and letting them know that they can count on us and there is a reason for and a benefit to our actions.

In our Horsemanship,  we need to have significance. This gives the horse reason and motivation to learn or to try. If we are not significant, we do not put out positive energy. We tend to be less interesting to the horse when we don't strive to have or show significance. When a horse learns that there are reasons and benefits to our interactions, they become very interested in us and what we might have to say.

We need to be aware that we don't stop being humble in the process. To be humble simply means to not put our own self worth above another. By staying humble we help ward off arrogance and it keeps us from pushing off our horses interest in us and their willingness to try.

In order to show significance and yet stay humble at the same time, we need to remember that our time with our horses is always a 2 way conversation. We cannot go into their time and space thinking only of our agendas. We listen to them and address their needs. This is not easy to explain. But an example might help. If I walk into a horses pen or stall, and they bend their head as to look the other way and avoid me. I don't continue up to them. Whether I am looking to put a halter on or just walk up to pet them. If they turn away from me, they don't want me. To stay humble I give them what they want. To have significance, I plant a thought in their mind that makes them desire more from me. In this case I would move in a way that I do not get closer or further away but move in a way that pushes on the hind end and draws the eye at the same time. If the head is bent away and I move as to go around their back side without getting any closer, we push the hind and draw the eye. We plant the thoughts of interest in what we are doing "and" what do we want? Once I  have their interest, I soon have their attention and the desire to communicate further without any interest in leaving or ignoring me. In this example I had to spend a little extra time addressing the horses needs. But it pays in the long run because I  was able to stay humble in a give and take sort of a way that allowed me to show that I had purpose, reason and benefits to our interactions which shows my significance.

There are many more examples I could talk about but the point is that your horse should see that you value your relationship with them and you really are good to have around. They should see you as a whole lot more than just the feed person. There should be many other benefits to having you in their life.

So work at being significant in your horses life, and do your best to stay humble.
Thanks for reading along.