It is extremely important to listen to your horse whenever you are with them. They are always asking you questions that you need to answer, or telling you something that you need to understand. Even though we are asking them to do something, we need to listen to them and hear their questions and concerns so we can respond appropriately to them.
If you have ever asked someone to do something for you, you will most likely remember them asking you questions about what it is you want them to do.They may have also given some insight about the subject in the way they understand it. They do this so they can understand what it is you truly want and give you that or maybe even something better than you thought was possible. Your horse does the same thing. They just do it differently.
Now a picture to paint so you can appreciate this concept. If you hire someone to do a job for you, whether its to fix your car, something at your house, or you need something built. You hire them to do the job because in most cases, they can do it better then you. You trust in them to do the job. They will ask you many questions to make sure you get what you want. They will also tell you the pros and cons of doing it one way as opposed to another. If they don't ask very many questions, or explain things clearly to you, then its possible you hired the wrong people. Also if you hire someone and don't leave them alone so they can do the work, they will most likely get angry with you. Maybe not angry but even if they are just annoyed by you, they may be less likely to give an extra effort to help out if needed.
When we work with our horses. We should look at it as we are the contractor hiring out a job. We ask them to do something and they ask all the important questions. Sometimes it seems as though they are being disobedient or troublesome but in most cases they are saying, is this OK? how about this? Can I do this? We need to respond appropriately to all of these questions, listen to their concerns, and leave them alone so they can do their job. This is a very difficult concept for many of us. We feel the need to hold their hands and babysit them all the way through it. The truth is, they are very capable of understanding our intentions if we are clear enough. They can do the job better than we can so we need to just let them do it. All we need to do is answer the questions as they present them to us so they can understand what it is we really want. If we trust them enough to leave them to do their job, then we gain their trust in us as well. They start to really appreciate us and will be willing to go the extra mile.
I wrote this as a reminder that our conversations should not be all one sided. Also that we learn to get better at meeting in the middle and compromising. Collaboration between you and your horse will produce better results than if you take it all on yourself and do all the talking or telling. Mainly because your horse will appreciate you more and be willing to try harder. These concepts when applied appropriately and practiced will help you get better connected. You will learn to understand each other at a much deeper level. This happens because you learn to know what is important to the other. You become more connected physically, emotionally, consciously, and unconsciously. At times it can feel like a totally spiritual connection.
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