tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7868307122953843756.post2277518555999909178..comments2016-04-07T11:13:04.795-04:00Comments on R Jay's Farm Horsmanship communication: There Are No Wrong AnswersAnonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02729403262367962479noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7868307122953843756.post-12704123352446135412014-02-07T19:03:07.301-05:002014-02-07T19:03:07.301-05:00I may have mentioned this before to you but in cas...I may have mentioned this before to you but in case someone else reads this. Asking them to do something and they lock up is simply lack of confidence to move forward. If we move away for a while and work on building confidence and re enforcing a go forward cue we can come back and try again. If we get back and we ask, we should keep asking without being pushy and as soon as we get a step, stop and reward. Maybe even leave for a bigger reward. make the break very brief and go back and try again evaluating what they will give and what they have given. Working to make it a little better each time. But don't get to greedy and don't spend to much time on it. Quit when its at the best its been.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02729403262367962479noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7868307122953843756.post-29062976937641076942014-02-07T16:30:24.274-05:002014-02-07T16:30:24.274-05:00As you know, my horse can get in the "No, I d...As you know, my horse can get in the "No, I don't want to" frame of mind. Thankfully, this doesn't<br />manifest in aggression when he loses his try. He just decides to shut down and turns in a mule.<br />I have found this very difficult and frustrating to work thru. One thing you taught me was to NOT<br />give up and let him get away with not trying. Ithen found myself going in the other direction<br />and NOT showing my appreciation to him when he HAS given me a good effort and done something<br />that he finds extremely scary and unpleasant. I have to learn to quit the lesson sooner instead<br />of drilling him to do something again and again. This has backfired because after he has done what<br />I've asked he gets frustrated and then refuses after things were going so well. <br /> I believe he's telling me, "I've stepped out of my comfort zone and done as you asked, now PLEASE <br />give me a break". I've learned I need to listen to him and let him know I'm happy with what he's<br />given me and thank him by ending the lesson.<br />Robinnoreply@blogger.com